“Although it’s often warm and fuzzy in the beginning, this is also the time when an individual must learn not only what to do but what not to do.” Though above all, you should just be yourself, and not try to mold your personality or what you do and refrain from doing as it relates to your new partner, it is true that relationships work best once you’ve learned all of the little things about someone.In the beginning, you might be able to know what makes them tick, she says, but “sometimes, a couple never gets to disclose all of their pet peeves, and before you know it, you have set them off on the deep end.” If this happens, you may be dealing with someone who is carrying more baggage than you signed up for — be sure to discuss it right away.“Relationships are awkward in the beginning because trust has yet to be established,” Darren Pierre, educator, speaker and author of The Invitation to Love: Recognizing the Gift Despite Pain, Fear, and Resistance , tells Bustle.“When two people first meet, they aren’t usually comfortable with being their total selves, so they put on facades and sometimes curb certain behaviors — and in some cases, suppress true feelings and opinions.”But this can lead to serious awkwardness, as you and your partner feel tired and weird after too much pretending.“Trying to be your best self 24/7 can be draining, and it eventually affects the relationship,” she says.i have pretty low self esteem which doesn't help but i've just never enjoyed dating.
He even begins to call you by your full name, which you’re a bit of a sucker for. You decide that yes you want to kiss him, and you lean in, just as he does. He’s not trying to shove his tongue down your throat, he’s not too aggressive with the teeth. Someone whistles from across the street so you chuckle at each other. You take a moment to kiss him once more, a goodbye and you say goodnight. You stop texting him with expectations of a grand textual archive of wit and cutting humor. You accept an offer of a whiskey from earlier mentioned good friend and you are about to settle into a seat when you see him out of the corner of your eye. He’s handsome, but with 10 years, if he takes care of himself, will be striking in a way. You tell him that you threw branches and burrows into the flames while people mingled. i generally don't like how fast paced dating is and have always found that it's easier for me to like a guy when we're friends first but it seems hard now at 20 to find a guy that just wants to be friends first.i don't really meet many guys in my every day life as there's no one at work i like and the guys that my friends know aren't my type at all ('lad' stereotype).“It's not combining two tasks we're familiar with, like eating and walking,” she says.“The task of reading a new partner is like walking on a new hiking path — a person will pay close attention to their steps, which makes it difficult to relax and be yourself in a way that isn't awkward.” Though you can’t wave a magic wand and make it stop, try to let go of all the obsessive thinking, attempting to read your partner like a book, and instead just show up.“Awkwardness in early dating comes from a number of things — the most common is getting sexually intimate before there is comparable emotional intimacy,” Dating coach and licensed marriage and family therapist Pella Weisman tells Bustle.