Dating a foreigner
It’s true that some foreign guys are just looking for a casual sexual relationship. Yet, the thing that tends to be left out of this discussion in the Chinese blogosphere, is that the people themselves are only acting as agents for the cultures in which they grew up.The heart of this issue comes from the fact that dating, relationships and sex in Western countries is far more casual than in China, even in bigger, more metropolitan cities like Beijing and Shanghai.When two Chinese go on a first date, especially dates organized by their mothers or a coven of plotting ayis, it can be a fairly serious affair, even with children/families/marriage discussed in some cases. However, at least in America, we will go on dates with people we hardly even know/like for something interesting to do, a chance at an actual future together, and—this is important—the potential for a mutually-agreed upon sexual relationship.
(lying and misleading women just to have sex with them) about 10 of these women date foreigners or have dated foreign men. a few guys told my friends that they had a gf in their home country and were only looking for a relationship while in china.3) Stability I have had the opportunity to discuss “stability” with many older Chinese, and this is the big thing I hear from many Chinese parents. Possibly a seven or eight year pit stop, but a pit stop nonetheless.It’s not so much that they don’t like foreigners, it’s just that there is a stereotype—founded or unfounded—that expats in China are far less stable than their Chinese counterparts. We’ll go back home or move to another country eventually; the parents of your “qin ai de” know this and will take that into consideration.With these thoughts in mind, remember that the cross-cultural street goes both ways.If you’re dating a Chinese person and you are really interested in making it work, it’s imperative to remember and respect their cultural background and influences; but don’t let yours get swept away and forgotten in the process.